 Photo Credit: Nathan Dumlao on Unsplash.com Here's an audio clip so you can listen to the Mom Tip while you eat chocolate! Hi, I’m Regan Barnes from Momivate, and this is your two-minute Mom Tip empowering you to elevate your mothering experience.
I was asked to speak in church on Mother's Day a few years ago. I'd heard so many women say that they avoid church on Mother's Day because they can't stand the guilt as the speakers dish about their perfect moms. Since my mom really is perfect, and talking about her would definitely make other mothers feel guilty, I spoke about Mary, the mother of Jesus, instead. No, that didn’t help the guilt, but it let me illustrate how each of our children is also one of God's children and even though we’re merely - and severely - mortal, He still allowed us to mother them. The key to accepting our imperfect selves is knowing, while incredibly sweet and adorable, our children aren't perfect either. They need to see how we handle missteps so they can handle their own! (Mary, the mother of Jesus, couldn't have that line of reasoning, since her son was, indeed, perfect. Oh well.) Instead of wallowing in guilt, I choose to wallow in gratitude -- and I mean really roll around and get myself covered in it!!! I am so very thankful to BE a mom, even though it humbles me every minute of every day. Gratitude goes to God for giving me eight children to teach and learn from and practice forgiveness with (both asking and giving). Gratitude goes to my mom for setting a beautiful example of dedicated motherhood. Gratitude to my husband for supporting me in so many ways, and loving me, even though I yell at his quiver full of kids every once in a while. And Gratitude goes to my children for loving me in spite of me. Mom, when feelings of guilt get you down, let gratitude lift you back up! Then share if this practice elevates your mothering!
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 Here's an audio clip so you can listen to the Mom Tip while you pack up your 72 hour kits. (Fair warning: this Mom Tip is actually 3 minutes long...) Hi, I’m Regan Barnes from Momivate, and this is your two-minute Mom Tip empowering you to elevate your mothering experience.
On Wednesday morning, March 11, 2020, my family was gathered for our morning devotional, and an odd, rumbling noise caused us all to pause. Instantaneously, I knew it was an earthquake, and said so just the millisecond before the trembling began. We all scattered to find a door jamb as quickly as we could, and about 20 seconds of 5.7 Richter Scale shaking later, we sat back down on the sofas to start processing together what had just happened. One thing we talked about was how grateful we were that, even though we had just experienced a natural disaster, we didn’t end up needing our 72 hour kits. We have had the practice of keeping 72 hour kits stocked and ready for an emergency -- and I can say how grateful I am that we’ve never had to use them. But having them packed and ready was instrumental in helping us feel a measure of calm in the midst of the quake. Would you like to feel one step ahead of the unpredictable? With all of the craziness on the news, from earthquakes, hurricanes, and wildfires to locust infestations, knowing we can't control what happens can be an unsettling acknowledgement. But choosing to prepare for the just-in-case can help us handle whatever comes without feeling totally out of control. To build our 72 hour kits on a budget, I bought second-hand backpacks and small suitcases with wheels, making sure the zippers work. Once the food and other necessities are packed in there, it’s pretty heavy, so having the option to drag it rather than carry it is ideal since we can't predict how far we might need to walk. Some people might simplify the whole shebang by buying MREs. I've never eaten an MRE, but I've heard horror stories… so I decided on a different system. I acknowledge the reality that food is not just for nourishment, but also for comfort, and considering that the situation in which using a 72-hour-kit would likely be a time we need comfort, I pack ours with food that serves both purposes. My system may not be the most efficient but there’s a hidden function within that lack of efficiency. Because the food is only packaged to last around six months, it requires us to unpack and re-pack every six months (or so) which gives us a prime opportunity to review all the contents of the kits (not just the food) and have low-pressure discussions as to why each item is included and how it is used. The kids kinda like it when we pull out all these packaged foods to rotate because they get to eat items we don’t often include in our day-to-day diets but that they view as desirable. And hey, in an emergency, comfort in the form of food is a double whammy. Since our 72-hour-kit menu might be useful to fellow mamas who see a need to be a little bit “preppy” (that word used to have a whole different connotation back in the 80s), the list is on the two-minute-mom-tip blog, so log on and take a peek as you consider an emergency plan for your family! Then share if this practice elevates your mothering! 72 Hour Kit MENU: divided up according to the component of our E element in the RAISE acronym -- “Three Parts to Every Meal: Protein, Grain, and Fruits/Veggies. 72 hours is 9 meals, so each child packs 27 items total, chosen from these options: PROTEINS: tuna/chicken salad -- in little cans, boxed with crackers, from the dollar store trail mix Small packets of peanut butter beef sticks vienna sausages Pudding Protein bars and shakes FRUITS: apple sauce Raisins Juice boxes Fruit leather Fruit snacks Cans of corn, peas, carrots… (and a can opener if they’re not pop-top!) GRAINS: Crackers, with cheese or peanut butter inside Cheez-its granola bars sandwich cookies Pop-tarts (which have a little fruit on the inside) OTHER: Bottled water (we fit two to three in each backpack) bags of hard candy (to suck on to trick the mind about thirst) 
Here's an audio clip so you can listen to the Mom Tip while you climb a tree.
Hi, I’m Regan Barnes from Momivate, and this is your two-minute Mom Tip empowering you to elevate your mothering experience.
They say that it takes 21 days to build a good habit. I have a few decades’ worth of goal-setting experience that proves that to be about right... My experience also says that it takes less than one day to fall out of that hard-earned habit... Just like climbing a tree: On the way up, I must carefully choose which limb to grasp, then use my muscles to pull myself. It can be a time-consuming, arduous process -- but falling down from the tree can happen pretty much instantaneously with no effort at all on my part. AAAACCCKKKK!!!! Thank you, gravity. And so the metaphor continues: there’s gravity in that more ethereal sense of our efforts to progress and improve in life. Forces that pull us down or times when we lose sight of the goal and loosen our grips, losing our footholds and then falling. But let’s not allow gravity to win. Defeat must be seen as temporary. There’s a great song called Tubthumping that helps me stand back up and start climbing that tree again. Here’s a fun rendition sung by an acapella group that got voted off an entertainment competition show called The Sing Off. Let’s train our brains so that when we fall, we respond by giving ourselves pep-talks (or pep songs, as the case may be!)! Can you feel these pats on the back, Mom?! No purpose is served in wallowing in the mud or being mad at ourselves. Momivate is a play on the word motivate, and we must do it for ourselves as well as for our children. How many times we fall down isn’t important as long as we stand back up Mom, decide just one area where you’ve fallen, and make the effort to stand back up and dust yourself off today. You’ve got this! Then share if this practice elevates your mothering! |
