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Is crying-it-out making you cry? Try this instead

1/15/2021

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Here's an audio clip so you can listen to the Mom Tip while you rock your newborn to sleep!
Hi, I’m Regan Barnes from Momivate, and this is your two-minute Mom Tip empowering you to elevate your mothering experience.

NEWSFLASH: Babies cry. They cry for all sorts of reasons. My job is to try to figure out why they're crying, and then do what I can to resolve the problem or at least offer a little comfort. They might still cry, even when I'm doin' my darndest to make it stop. Sometimes, I notice that I'm singing to them not because it calms them, but because it calms me! (It only just now occurred to me that possibly my singing makes them cry worse). Amidst the various and sundry cry-fests daily, I don’t see a need to purposely add more crying nightly!

Our American culture is so steeped in the cry-it-out method for bedtime that precious little info is out there for moms who want to do it differently.

I recommend a book called "The No-Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantley. The author recognizes that some of us just don't want sleep-time to be cry-time. She has experience both co-sleeping (which I enjoy), and crib-sleeping. The trick she teaches is the importance of a routine, good options to include in a sleep routine, and how to successfully establish a routine so that bedtime is better all around. 

So, baby and I follow a solid routine both for naps and nighttime. I have it posted in our bedroom to help myself remember the steps *in order* -- because babies are so tuned in to structure. Repetitively doing the routine wires baby’s brain so that each element serves as a sleep-signal. As we go through each step, baby winds down and gets sleepier and sleepier eventually drifting peacefully off... to... sleeeee... honk,shoooo…

Moms, institute a bedtime routine with your little ones -- it’s never too late! -- then share if this practice elevates your mothering!

Here's our routine in detail, plus a few extra notes from the book!

Change diaper (smile calmly and tell her it's sleep time)
close door & turn off light
turn on white-noise
wrap in blankie; offer lovey-doll (keep smiling calmly so she has positive feelings about sleep)
dance together while singing until she's very drowsy
shhhh in her ear while I put her down
keep shushing as I leave the room 

If she wakes up and fusses for more than ten seconds or so, go back in and do the routine again (starting at the blankie/lovey part).

Chart how it goes over the course of ten days, and you'll see a difference as both you and baby get accustomed to the routine. Keep up the ten-day increments to keep seeing progress. Keep in mind that baby's body has to adjust to lots of changes as she grows, such as teething, learning new skills from grasping with hands to walking, and these can disrupt sleep patterns. The routine will rescue you and create a calm, bonding bedtime ritual each time.



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Did Rocky's Mom ever sing this song?

11/16/2020

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Hi, I’m Regan Barnes from Momivate, and this is your two-minute Mom Tip empowering you to elevate your mothering experience.

Remember that catchy tune "Eye of the Tiger" from the Rocky III movie?
I confess, I haven't actually seen Rocky III… but I have been developing the Eye of the Mommy… let me explain!

For many years, I was unable to see messes. I was so absorbed in the present task (making more of a mess) that I didn't pay much attention to existing messes. This kind of blindness is a blessing to some extent because the messy environments of mothering eight kids don’t phase me. But being comfortable in my own mess doesn’t make my family and friends feel comfortable, so in that sense it has been more of a curse… So I have been trying to improve my “mess-vision” and now I have “The Eye of the Mommy!”

Hoping to give my children a head-start in life and not have to be embarrassed into cleanliness, I have been figuring out how to instill in my offspring the desire --and ability-- to be tidy.

I’ve taught my kids that after they've completed a job, they need to have it inspected. That's the order it is supposed to go in: finish first, then get inspected. Sometimes, though, they ask for an inspection and when I go to do it, it’s clear the job has NOT been completed very thoroughly. So, now when they report that they’re ready for inspection, I respond:

"Did you use the Eye of the Mommy?"

They'll often go back and work again for a few minutes... and that's okay! They're learning how to *see* messes on their own! I personally know that improving that eyesight is a gradual process...

Sometimes, it seems there’s an eyepatch on my own “Eye of the Mommy” and our home is not as tidy as it could be. And that's okay. Really! An important purpose can be served in allowing the kids to suffer from the opposite of cleanliness! They'll be more able to appreciate when our home is clean -- and more interested in doing the cleaning!

Moms, try encouraging your children to use the Eye of the Mommy next time and see if they can upgrade their chore performance on their own! Then share if this practice elevates your mothering!
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Can We get away with never doing chores?

11/4/2020

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Hi, I’m Regan Barnes from Momivate, and this is your two-minute Mom Tip empowering you to elevate your mothering experience.

I confess: I hate the word "chores." I'll bet most people do. It's just filled with drudgery that weighs you down the moment you think it. Ugh. 

And so, in our house, we try really hard never to do chores. Instead, we take FLYLady's advice and we "Bless Our Home." 

We have gone through various chore charts and systems -- what I've figured out is, no system works unless I do! 

Yup, that's MY job as the mom, is to execute whatever system is posted on the fridge at the moment. I have to be the one to rally the troops... 

On regular weekdays, I aim for Sloppy Success rather than Perfect Failure... got that one from Hannah Keeley).  I leave the "be thorough" expectation for Saturday's BIG Bless Our Home.

I try to set a good example for my kiddos by whistlin' while I work -- although, really, I can't whistle, so instead I make up silly songs about whatever chore, errr, whatever way I'm blessing the house at the moment. Imagine what kinds of silly rhymes I have to come up with for "garbage" or "dishwasher?" 

Recently, I created a parody of the Beauty and The Beast song “Be Our Guest” replacing those words with “Bless Our Home!”

Of course, there are times when I can't bring myself to sing, maybe I’m just having a low energy day or I’m a little overwhelmed by the repetition and magnitude of the task of keeping a home even just somewhat tidy. I usually can still manage to ward off the grumpiness by turning my voice robotic. We all would love to have a robot do our chores, right?! 

Fellow Mom, are you willing to give up chores and try “Blessing Your Home” this week, maybe even singing as you go? Then share if this practice elevates your mothering!

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