The Magic Three for Stress-free Me

I'm glad this is anonymous because I get so much flack whenever I tell my friends about this little foreplay system that my husband and I have. It makes it sound like I'm bribing him, they say. But he happily agrees to it and it makes my life sooo much better!!

The problem was that I almost never felt like having sex because I was too stressed out. We decided that when he wanted some, he'd have to put the lingerie-of-his-choice on the bed in the morning as an indication. By the time he gets home from work, around 3:30, my part of the deal was to put a list of three things near the lingerie, and these could be anything that was stressing me out that he could take over for me so I could relax enough to enjoy intimacy.

Seriously, you wouldn't think that changing a light bulb could get a man so excited! I've asked for lots of different things over the years: bathe the big kids while I put the baby to sleep; wash the car and vacuum it -- that counts as two! Get the dishes done. Call the dentist and make appointments. Pay the hospital bill. Get the trash out to the dumpster. Dust the vaulted ceiling, including the fan. Paint the railing. Hang the new family portrait. Sort out the kids' clothes and drive the stuff they've outgrown to the goodwill. 

Yeah, it might be stuff he should be doing anyway. It might be a silly little reward system. It might be stuff I could "fit in" but just don't feel like it. 

But it works. And we're both happy! And we both like sex at this point. So, no judging please.