Talk about sex

My husband and I were both virgins when we got married, and this made our honeymoon a beautiful experience of exploration. Starting out our sex lives together meant we were lovingly conscientious and freely talked about what we liked or didn't like about each encounter. We built a strong sexual foundation in those first few weeks of figuring things out together as we discussed our preferences openly.

We didn't realize how unusual this free and open sex talk was as a couple until my husband finished his degree as a marriage therapist. Apparently, lots of our peers just "hooked up" with acquaintances and didn't have the opportunity to process their experiences in such a positive way, and then they brought that baggage into their marriages and it was pretty rough -- that's one reason they ended up in his office.

There was a hit song in the 90s with these lyrics:
"Let's Talk About Sex, Baby,
Let's Talk about you and me,
let's talk about all the good things
and the bad things that may be...
Let's tell it how it is, and how it could be,
How it was, and of course how it should be." 

Whether you made it to marriage as a virgin or not, I highly recommend talking about sex with your husband often and honestly. It might be awkward at first, but it can prevent or solve so many problems. 

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