Sex in my forties in my thirties

When I was 28, I read a comment on a blog that said women have their best sex in their forties because of the body image maturity that comes with time. I didn't want to wait until my forties to have my best sex!! I wanted good sex NOW! I thought a lot about "body image maturity" and what that meant and how my own body image IMmaturity was, in fact, an obstacle in my current sex life. I made a point to work on maturing beyond my years so that I could get to that level of comfort that would remove inhibitions and improve satisfaction levels. It wasn't a matter of losing weight or getting false eyelashes or anything outward. It was entirely inward! Things like accepting myself as-is, not based on goals to change; not caring what other people might think of me; being grateful for my overall health and capability to have children and see my battle-scars from pregnancy more like badges of honor. By the time I was 32 or so, I really felt like I had reached an advanced stage of body appreciation and my husband noticed too! It made sex better for BOTH of us! 

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