Pushing My Buttons

My husband and I have talked about how different we are in terms of getting "turned on." He is like a light switch, either on or off. I am like one of those soundboards you see in a recording studio with tons of different knobs, sliders, switches and so forth! I have physical "buttons" like my nipples and clitoris, but I also have numerous psychological buttons that help me get in the mood:

Woo me with compliments! Make sure you smell good, including your breath! Give me advance notice so I can make sure *I* smell good! Don't treat me like a toy made only for your pleasure! Take me out on a date sometimes! Hold my hand or play footsies with me during dinner! Be a good daddy to our kids! Do some chores without me asking! Sing a romantic song in my ear when I'm welcoming you home from work! Bring me chocolate and feed it to me!

Something tricky about my "soundboard" is that what has worked once doesn't always "work" the same way reliably the next time. My poor husband! He's been a good sport through our adventures of figuring it out and thinks of it as a game or a challenge. I try to be a good sport, too, and recognize that he's trying, even if it's not having the effect on me that he hoped. And the "trying" is a turn-on in its own way, too.

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