Open with our kids

One of the things we really value is the need for openness as far as curiosity about sex. Sometimes just out of the blue, like when driving in the car, we'll say, "So, have you guys heard anything about sex that you'd like to ask if it's true?" or similar questions. We also use this openness when talking about pornography. We say that no question is off-limits and we'll always give an honest answer and that we want to be their first resource when they're wondering about these things. We promise not to get mad! Our oldest child hasn't even gone through puberty yet but we feel like this has worked out pretty well so far. We also practice "reflective listening" when they do open up so that they'll feel like they can say it all and not hold back. This way we get to examine various details, like how they got started thinking about things.  

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