Lessons learned from someone else

My friend in college was rather proud of her sexual exploits and often shared stories with me.

One of the various things I learned from her is that sex "under the influence" was generally regretted. She would complain that she couldn't hardly remember the experience. She felt like alcohol made her into a fake and she figured the boy was probably faking based on his substance intake also. She decided (after a few such incidents) that she would never again have sex while intoxicated -- which led to her deciding just to avoid drinking for the most part, so it was definitely a lifestyle improvement. 

Another thing she mentioned more than once was how she disliked "quickies." She said it made her feel used if the sexual encounter was over too fast, especially if the boy didn't call her again afterwards. I thought, "If you were married, it wouldn't matter!" And I think that's proven true in my relationship with my husband... sometimes, quickies are necessary because we're parents! And something is better than nothing! And my husband has always called again! Ha ha. 

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