Don't Have Sex!

I was brought up to avoid premarital sex and succeeded in doing so. Once I got married, though, I realized that I still didn't want to have sex...

oh, don't get me wrong, I still wanted that supremely intimate intercourse with the man who had dedicated his life to me! I just didn't want "SEX" as it had been sold to me through rock and roll songs or as something that might give me veneral diseases, or something that animals do out of instinct rather than as a signal of commitment and conscientious love.

I enjoy the passion but not from a lustful perspective. I crave the connection but not from a secular, selfish pleasure standpoint. I engage when I want to show my beloved my otherwise indescribable love, not because I'm a slave to my primitive drive.

​So my husband and I made up our own phrase that is unique to us and what we want our experience to be. It encompasses our goal and our own marital purpose in sharing our bodies and souls in this important way. So my advice for married couples is: don't have sex -- instead, have "relationship enhancement" or "bridge-building" or "sacred union" or whatever phrase you two decide on for yourselves!