Body Size

My first husband was a much larger person than my petite self -- fourteen inches taller and almost twice as heavy. Our marriage didn't work out for lots of reasons, but I felt like this physical mismatch was a contributing factor since sexuality meant discomfort for me. I decided when it came time for re-marrying, I would narrow the dating pool partially by choosing to date men within four or five inches of my height and forty or fifty pounds of my weight.

I'm not sure if this helps women who are otherwise happily married to men whose height and weight exceed these parameters -- I certainly don't encourage you to divorce a good man over these specs. But if your marriage has ended for other reasons and you're looking to start dating again, consider taking my advice. I'm glad I did! Maybe someone who has hints for how to make sex work when the man is that much bigger than the woman will write in and share!

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