My twin daughters are in a kickboxing class at the local community college and this video was assigned to them as homework. It struck me as so simple that it is well worth the couple of minutes to review information we likely are already aware of but need continual reminders about. Moms, this is what we do -- we are the reminders, the repeaters, the consistent, kind, and friendly reviewers and encouragers!
From the YouTube Description:
Wellness means overall well-being. It includes the emotional, environmental, financial, intellectual, occupational, physical, social, and spiritual aspects of a person’s life. Incorporating aspects of the Eight Dimensions of Wellness, such as choosing healthy foods, forming strong relationships, and exercising often, into everyday habits can help people live longer and improve quality of life. The Eight Dimensions of Wellness may also help people better manage their condition and experience recovery. This short animated video explores the Eight Dimensions of Wellness and helps people understand the practical strategies and ways they can begin developing healthy habits that can have a positive impact on their physical and mental health. To learn more about SAMHSA’s Wellness Initiative, click here.
The Mom in the Mirror
When you get what you want in your struggle for self
And the world makes you queen for a day,
Just go to the mirror and look at yourself
And see what *that* mom has to say.
For it isn’t your facebook or instagram likes
Whose judgement upon you must pass.
The woman whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the one staring back from the glass.
Some people may see all your beautiful posts
And think you’re free from all wrongs.
But the mom in the glass knows about the burnt toast,
And the flats and the sharps in your songs.
She’s the woman to please - never mind all the rest,
For she’s with you (and your kids) to the end.
And you've passed your most dangerous, difficult test
If the mom in the glass is your friend.
You don’t need to convince the whole instagram crowd
That they’ll never know anyone dearer.
Adore your imperfect self and be proud
To love that real mom in the mirror.
For when you accept that perfection you lack
And pursue simple progress instead,
You offer yourself the best kind of feedback
And happier feelings are spread.
Other moms need to know that your struggles are real
And how optimism can play
A critical role in how you manage and deal
With life’s topsy turvy melee.
No need to complain, no need to hold back
Let authenticity be your goal
And the mom in the mirror will share her life hack:
“Be true to the mom in your soul!”
Written by Dr. LaReina Hingson, Momivate Director of Relationship Dynamics
Being a mother means most of your social circle is already established--you spend time and energy on your children, family members, and people in your circle you already know. However, social distancing restrictions remind us that meeting and interacting with new people breathes life into our world, whether it’s the cashier at the market or another mom at your kids’ school.Whether restrictions require interacting with people virtually or we simply don’t know where to start, this post offers some ideas.
Seize the day
Often, making friends is as simple as putting yourself out there. Likely, you interact with people all day long; taking the time to talk to them as a person, even for as little as a single minute, can open the door to the possibility of creating new and meaningful friendships. A friendship of a minute is a friendship you created and even if it doesn’t last beyond that, it brings life to your day-to-day routine.Try asking someone you don’t know around you one of the following questions:
Apps aren’t just for dating
If you’re not leaving your house, or are convinced you aren’t going to meet other moms in person, have no fear! Many apps that are traditionally for dating have expanded their services to a “just looking for friends” option. Some benefits of using an app to find friends include:
If this might be for you, be sure to check which apps have friend options and that your spouse (if you have one) is aware of your intentions with the app!
Service can be virtual
Service is touted as one of the best places to meet and make new friendships. Bonus, you know your time is being spent productively so if you’re one of those people who worries about wasting time talking to others, you know there’s a built-in useful aspect to your time. Doing service while meeting others can take the pressure off the interaction as well. For those who aren’t strong social butterflies, this division of mental focus can actually improve your conversation with others by allowing you to relax and giving you a built-in topic. Additionally, you get to pick service oftentimes, so chances are higher that the people you serve and serve with have similarities to your own values and interests.
Nursing homes and other activities are increasing their virtual service options, which again means the mother with limited time can create opportunities to serve without factoring in the travel time that used to be mandatory. You can start virtual service by contacting your local nursing homes, schools for tutoring programs, or by logging on to justserve.org. Momivate, a non-profit, has a few opportunities to serve listed here!
Moms, there's no need to be lonely! Reach out! Your efforts to befriend someone will not only bless your life but also the person whose friend you become.
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