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Our Secret Weapon

10/11/2022

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By Annette T. Durfee, Momivate's Cultivate Leader
PicturePhoto Credit: Jonathan Borba on Unsplash.com
Here's a riddle for ya:  What doesn’t cost a cent, is non-fattening, and we literally NEED it to survive?  If you guessed a HUG, you are right!  Yes, a good old-fashioned hug!  Can you believe it?  Something so simple as a hug is actually a necessary part of our survival as human beings.  The reason for this is that when we hug or are hugged our body releases oxytocin (a hormone that reduces that stress producing hormone cortisol).  So, the more hugs we have, the better we can handle the stresses life throws in our path. In fact, Psychotherapist Virginia Satir found out that we literally NEED 4 hugs a day, just to survive, 8 hugs for our maintenance, and for 12 hugs a day for growth!
 
Just how powerful is a hug anyway?  If an apple a day keeps the doctor away, then it might not surprise you that 12 hugs a day might just do the trick as well.  Medically speaking, a 10 second hug has a powerful effect on our health.  It not only does wonders by lowering blood pressure, but it can fight fatigue and infections, improve your immune system, and ease depression.  And if that is not enough, hugs have a positive effect on child development and IQ, and actually boost their self-esteem as well as their ability to project self-love as an adult.  I like the sound of that! 
 The very thought of all of those great benefits makes me hope that we will say . . .
 
Hug O’War
I will not play at tug o' war.
I'd rather play at hug o' war,
Where everyone hugs
Instead of tugs,
Where everyone giggles
And rolls on the rug,
Where everyone kisses,
And everyone grins,
And everyone cuddles,
And everyone wins
                          --Shel Silverstein
Well, I like winning, don’t you?  And I like having my children win.  And if it means that I get to smother them with hugs and kisses, then so be it!  In some wonderful way that we may not fully comprehend, hugs have the power to invisibly heal and lift.  We might even call hugs our secret weapon to helping our children feel special and loved!  With or without a word, a hug says, “You are so wonderful!  I’m so glad you’re mine!”  In times of stress, they communicate, “I’m here for you.”  “Let’s work together.”  When our children are sad, a hug reaches out and says, “I feel your pain,” or after a conflict, “Let’s start over.”  And don’t forget the times of rejoicing, “I can’t believe this!  You are SO amazing!”
We probably don’t have to worry too much about getting in our quota of hugs for the day. I believe that most of these will come naturally.  We’ll greet our children in the morning with an “I’m so glad to see you” hug and enfold them in love with a “you’re the best” hug before they go to sleep.  We’ll give them a quick “wishing you a happy day” hug on their way out the door and an “I’m SO glad you’re home” hug when they return.  We’ll remember a “Hope you feel better soon” hug to sooth the sickies and an “I’m sorry” hug to help mend a quarrel.  And at any moment throughout the day, we’ll slip in a “how are you doing?” hug and or an impromptu heart to heart “You are a joy in my life!” hug. 
One way or another, we’ll wrap our arms and our hearts around our families, we’ll let our words match our actions, and we’ll let them know that rain or shine, they are the best thing that ever happened to us – a true win-win, and all thanks to our secret weapon.

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