Written by Dr. LaReina Hingson, Momivate Director of Relationship Dynamics
Being a mother means most of your social circle is already established--you spend time and energy on your children, family members, and people in your circle you already know. However, social distancing restrictions remind us that meeting and interacting with new people breathes life into our world, whether it’s the cashier at the market or another mom at your kids’ school.Whether restrictions require interacting with people virtually or we simply don’t know where to start, this post offers some ideas.
Seize the day
Often, making friends is as simple as putting yourself out there. Likely, you interact with people all day long; taking the time to talk to them as a person, even for as little as a single minute, can open the door to the possibility of creating new and meaningful friendships. A friendship of a minute is a friendship you created and even if it doesn’t last beyond that, it brings life to your day-to-day routine.Try asking someone you don’t know around you one of the following questions:
Apps aren’t just for dating
If you’re not leaving your house, or are convinced you aren’t going to meet other moms in person, have no fear! Many apps that are traditionally for dating have expanded their services to a “just looking for friends” option. Some benefits of using an app to find friends include:
If this might be for you, be sure to check which apps have friend options and that your spouse (if you have one) is aware of your intentions with the app!
Service can be virtual
Service is touted as one of the best places to meet and make new friendships. Bonus, you know your time is being spent productively so if you’re one of those people who worries about wasting time talking to others, you know there’s a built-in useful aspect to your time. Doing service while meeting others can take the pressure off the interaction as well. For those who aren’t strong social butterflies, this division of mental focus can actually improve your conversation with others by allowing you to relax and giving you a built-in topic. Additionally, you get to pick service oftentimes, so chances are higher that the people you serve and serve with have similarities to your own values and interests.
Nursing homes and other activities are increasing their virtual service options, which again means the mother with limited time can create opportunities to serve without factoring in the travel time that used to be mandatory. You can start virtual service by contacting your local nursing homes, schools for tutoring programs, or by logging on to justserve.org. Momivate, a non-profit, has a few opportunities to serve listed here!
Moms, there's no need to be lonely! Reach out! Your efforts to befriend someone will not only bless your life but also the person whose friend you become.
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